A Valentine's Day Challenge: Would You Not Get Married Until I Can Get Married?

By Julie Enszer, AlterNet. Posted February 14, 2009.

Despite the discomfort the question is certain to engender, I think it's time to ask it. Persistently and repeatedly.

It's a question I never asked any of my friends or family members even as I was attending weddings and buying gifts (an occurrence more common about 10 years ago when I was in my twenties, but let's not worry about the passage of time.) Now, I wonder, what would have happened if I asked that question? And what will happen if I ask it now?